An Acting Coach Explains the Three Pillars of Charismatic Chemistry

Oct 10

If you've ever wondered how some people seem to have a natural ability to make others like them, I can tell you that those people are likely blessed with charisma. But that doesn't mean you're doomed to always be the least popular person in the room. Anyone can learn how to develop charisma by building three pillars of personality: authenticity, awareness and agility.

The three pillars of charisma are authenticity, awareness and agility.

The three pillars of charisma are authenticity, awareness, and agility.

Authenticity is about being your true self, even when it can be challenging or uncomfortable. It means accepting yourself for who you are, with all your flaws and quirks and baggage—and realizing that others around you have their own baggage as well. Authenticity helps people trust you because they know that they can rely on the real person underneath whatever show you’re putting on at any given moment in time—you’ll always be there for them no matter what happens.

Awareness is about getting to know yourself better—your strengths as well as your weaknesses—so that when a situation arises where one of these may come into play (for example: if someone starts talking down to another person), then instead of reacting instinctively with anger or frustration in order to protect yourself against this perceived threat (which would only escalate things further), instead use those moments instead for growth; take some time out afterwards maybe just by yourself so reflect on how stressful situations make us feel emotionally/physically etc., why does this particular thing bother me more than other things do?, what role does my past experience play in this current scenario...

Authenticity is about being your true self.

You can’t be authentic if you are trying to be someone else.

If you are trying to be someone else, then you will have a performance that is inauthentic (and probably not very good).

Awareness is about growing your understanding of yourself and the others you interact with.

As an actor, you need to be aware of yourself and your surroundings. This means being aware of what is happening around you at all times. You cannot be on autopilot: you must pay attention to the people in the room with you, how they are responding to your character’s actions, and how those actions affect others.

When it comes to building chemistry with other actors or actresses on-screen, our goal is always "to create a sense of spontaneity." In order for this to happen, we have to understand each other's intentions before we begin filming anything together. For example: Am I supposed to be drunk? Do I have psychic powers? Is my friend a spy? These questions—along with many more—must be answered before shooting begins in order for us as performers never become unintentional spies or drunks (unless that's what is called for).

Agility is about being able to adapt as you learn new things about yourself or the other person.

Agility is about being able to adapt as you learn new things about yourself or the other person. It’s about being willing to change, rather than seeing yourself as “fixed” in some way. The key here is flexibility, not rigidity.

When it comes to chemistry with other people, agility allows you to be open and flexible enough to understand that what works for one person might not work for another. For example: if I tell my partner that he looks great today in his new shirt and jeans combo, he may think that this is a compliment—but if I say the same thing to my friend who dresses like a hippie-punk every day (like myself) then she may feel insulted by my remark because she thinks her style is fabulous no matter what she wears! In this case agility would have helped me recognize why each of these individuals felt differently about what I said and adjust accordingly so as not hurt either of them unnecessarily or miss an opportunity for connection due to miscommunication between us."

Charisma doesn't have to be a quality that some people have and some people don't, it can be developed and learned.

Charisma is a skill. It's not something you're born with, and it doesn't have to be a quality that some people have and some people don't—it can be developed and learned. In fact, charisma is the combination of three pillars: your looks, your personality, and your confidence (or lack thereof). If you want to develop charisma as an actor or performer, you need to focus on all three pillars equally so that each one supports the others when they come together in front of an audience.

Not all charisma comes from experience; there are certain personality traits that make people more charismatic.

As an actor, you must understand the three pillars of charisma:

Emotional intelligence (EQ) is the ability to identify and manage your own emotions while understanding those of others. It’s important in all relationships, but especially crucial in acting because actors have to be able to relate to people on a deep level.
Self-confidence is a major component of charisma that comes from within—it means believing in yourself no matter what others say or think about you. In order for self-confidence to shine through, it needs something else:
A sense of humour is essential when building chemistry with another person because it helps break tension and put both parties at ease by creating laughter and joy.

Some people may be able to adapt their charisma so that they can access it when they need it, but otherwise prefer a more realistic approach.

While some people are able to adapt their charisma so that they can access it when they need it, other actors prefer a more realistic approach that allows them to more easily connect with the audience. There are advantages and disadvantages to both approaches. For instance, if you're new to acting and want to get started quickly, then learning how to develop your charisma over time may not be the best option for you. However, if you already have some experience and want to learn how improve your skillset in this area, then working with an acting coach or mentor who specializes in charismatic chemistry will help ensure that your progress moves forward at an optimal pace.

You can develop these skills and become a more confident, charismatic person in any situation.

It might seem like you're born with charisma or not. But in reality, charisma is a skill that can be learned and developed. You can learn to adapt your charisma so that you can access it when you need it—in a job interview or the boardroom, at work parties or networking events.

You just need to know what works for you and how to develop these skills into strengths.

To help make sure everyone understands this important point, let's take a closer look at each pillar of charismatic chemistry:

Conclusion

If you’re looking to develop your charisma and confidence, the first step is to be honest with yourself. This means being aware of your strengths as well as your weaknesses, so that you can use them both when necessary. Next, start developing your awareness by learning about yourself and others around you—you never know what might happen if you just take a moment before jumping into something new! Finally, try out different techniques until one of them clicks with both sides of your brain; this will allow them to work together rather than in opposition during stressful situations where everyone needs all four pillars working together.

Connor Mills Cross